Macho Man!!

Three feet from gold.  That’s where I stood concerning Jose Espinosa from April 2018 until January 2021.  Jose and his wife Susie are realtors and Life Time Healthy Way of Life members in North Dallas.  As a fitness professional, I would see Jose almost daily in the early mornings.  He and Susie would frequent the group fitness classes and do a good bit of extra cardio, and yet, I never saw them doing any traditional strength training, and they didn’t seem to be making any progress in losing weight.

January 2021


While I wasn’t sure precisely what Jose did for work, he appeared to be one busy guy with his cell phone almost permanently attached to his ear.  Between mostly Spanish and the occasional hint of English, I finally figured out that he was, in fact, a realtor.  Soon afterward, we introduced ourselves one day in the Life Cafe, and the conversation quickly shifted to the topic of nutrition.  Jose confessed to being lost.  He and Susie slaved away in the gym almost daily, and yet they saw no results.

January 2021

I shared that proper nutrition is the most critical factor regardless of building muscle or dropping body fat.  You can kill yourself in the gym; however, you will never out-train a poor diet.  From that simple conversation, I offered to give Jose a complimentary consultation.  He accepted, and we agreed to meet the following week.

When I first looked at Jose’s nutrition, it was not pretty.  Can you say taquitos for breakfast during the week from Quik Trip or pancakes from IHOP on the weekends?  As busy real estate professionals, they worked 24/7 and ate out most meals.  Jose started his day with coffee and water and then hit the gym doing group fitness classes, running on a treadmill, or pounding away on a stair master.  Lunch and dinner were typically chicken and rice with a few veggies followed by cereal and milk before bed. 

November 2021

Jose tipped the scales at 203.8 lbs from day one with a BMI of 33.9 and a body fat percentage of 39.4%.  I told him point-blank that his nutrition had to change if he wanted to see results.  He said he was ready and would do whatever I suggested.  Fast forward to the present, and Jose is now just under 160 lbs.  His BMI is down 7.3 points to 26.6, and his body fat is down to 24.4%, almost half of where he started.

November 2021

The fantastic thing is that he’s only lost 2 pounds of muscle while dropping over 40 lbs of body fat.  Under the circumstances, we’re not worried about fractional muscle loss.  Once Jose reaches his desired body fat percentage, and we’re getting close, we will build back the lost muscle and much, much more.

November 2021

So, how did we do it?  The secret is that we took it one small step at a time building in new and positive behaviors that are now primarily a habit.  Jose is running on autopilot based on the programming I’ve shared with him over the past ten months, and the best is yet to come. 

November 2021

On January 22nd, we started his bi-weekly nutrition coaching sessions, and the results came quickly.  Jose dropped 6.6 lbs in the first month, including a 2% drop in body fat and no loss of muscle.  While he continued to attend group fitness classes almost daily, the positive changes in his nutrition kicked his body into gear.

Jose’s plan was based on roughly 35% protein, 35% carbs, and 30% fat for those interested in counting macros.  It was simple and very effective.  

Early Morning – coffee & water
Workout – followed by a protein shake
Mid-Morning – breakfast including protein & carbs
Mid-Day – lunch including protein, veggies, and carbs
Mid-Afternoon – 2 protein bars
Evening – dinner including protein, veggies, and carbs
Evening Snack – 1 protein bar

By the middle of March, I had gained Jose’s further trust, and he started training with me two days a week in addition to his nutrition coaching.  He continued doing some group fitness; although, I encouraged him to scale back on the volume to allow his body to fully recover.  By April 16th, he dipped just under 190 lbs with his muscle holding and his body fat down 4% from the start.  He was down to 178 lbs by early July, with his body fat down another 3 %.  That’s when we switched his training to working with me exclusively, leaving the group fitness behind.

October 2021

Jose continued to train one-on-one with me two days per week; however, he also did three additional days a week based on the overall program I designed leveraging our virtual training app.  He loved the change in training, and his body continued to respond.  By mid-August, he hit 168 lbs, and then finally, on October 2nd, Jose dipped below 160 lbs.  Our ultimate weight loss goal is to hit roughly 150-155 lbs.  At that point, we will switch our focus to adding back quality muscle while minimizing any gains in fat.  

October 2021

When the student is ready, the teacher will appear, and when we first talked, Jose was ready for a change.  He knew he needed help, and thankfully, for his sake, he was willing to listen and then take action.  I told him early on that if he could be successful as a realtor, he could learn to eat healthily.  When we first started, he and Susie ate out most meals.  Today, Jose meal preps weekly and eats mostly their food from home.  That’s not to say that they never eat out, but it’s now with a completely different mindset and perspective which could be summed up as eating to live rather than living to eat.

A New Man!

Jose is a talented businessman and is exceptionally bright.  He is blessed to have his wife, Susie, expecting their second child and their first daughter Sophia supporting his efforts.  Jose has been a pleasure to coach over the past ten months, and I’m expecting only the very best as we continue to work together on his fitness journey.  

​Closing thoughts for my readers:

Jose is one of the most consistent and hard-working individuals that I’ve ever known.  And while the program design I’ve given him is solid, the secret to his success has been his overall consistency in the gym and willingness to change his nutrition.  Small steps add up to massive change for the positive, and that’s Jose’s journey in a nutshell.

If you’re looking to change your body composition, by all means, you need to do strength training and cardio.  However, if you’re struggling with your food, be willing to get some help.  Change can occur quickly with the proper plan in place.  Life is too short to spin your wheels in frustration.  Jose is a different man today because he was willing to change, and you can do the same.

Best of luck in your journey.

“Working with Kelly Amidon is by far the best investment I’ve ever made.  I’m in my 40’s as a Texas Realtor and have stayed somewhat active in my adult life like most of us try to.  I’ve had a consistent gym membership for years and thought I knew how to work out.  I thought I knew enough about food and eating healthy to have a decent physique if I did both regularly, but we know the mirror doesn’t lie.  I realized that if I wanted to make a change, I would need to work with a professional.

Kelly loves doing what he does, and it shows in his work.  His passion for bringing the change to his clients’ lives, his dedication to his work, and his friendliness are only a small number of reasons you should choose him as your trainer.  He helped me lose over 40 pounds in less time than I believed possible, and it changed my life completely.”

Jose Espinosa

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28 Days Too Late…

On the morning of September 25, 2020, it hit me out of the blue, and like a ton of bricks, that I hadn’t seen any recent posts from my friend and former client, Damon Taylor.  And while the optimist in me said to check Facebook, my gut told me otherwise.  With my gut winning out, I slowly typed Damon Taylor’s obituary into Mother Google, and my worst fears were instantly confirmed.  My friend was gone, and I was 28 days too late.

Damon and I started working together in March of 2019. He had recently joined our club and had expressed interest in working with a trainer as he was trying to get back into shape after a traumatic event. Damon had gone to Oklahoma City to visit his daughter and her family where he was brutally attacked by a group of thugs and left for dead outside of a restaurant. This was back in early 2019 and the temperature that night was well below freezing. The result was frostbite in his left foot where he almost lost his toes. When we first met, he was still wearing a protective boot however thankfully on the road to recovery.

Damon had a unique background serving as a Marine from 1988 through 1995 fighting in both the Gulf War and Iraqi Freedom. Upon retiring from the military, he started his own financial planning business based in the North Dallas area. When we met for the first time he was super excited to get started with his training and further wanted my help with his nutrition.

While alcohol had been a part of his life during his time in the military, the experience in Oklahoma City pushed him to leave the bottle behind and further caused him to find his way back to God. There’s always a silver lining in every adversity and Damon lived that philosophy to the max. We agreed to train one day a week and he committed to doing 2-3 more workouts per week based on the program I created for him.

Beyond his training, we cleaned up his nutrition and added in the supplements needed to help his body recover and progress from his efforts. Damon was all in from day one and used to crack me up with his “pre-workout” drink. The product is literally called “Hyde” as in Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. He was already one of the most high-strung individuals I had ever met and with the addition of the “Hyde” formula, he was hilarious to work with.

From March until early August, he made tremendous gains in strength and improvements in his body composition adding muscle mass and dropping body fat. I love working with clients who take their training seriously and Damon was in for the long term. That all changed on August 14th when he went to his eye doctor after struggling to read a simple bill at a restaurant.

His eye doctor directed him immediately to the emergency room where he reached out to me saying he would be missing his normal Saturday workout. This was a Friday evening and I was proactive in following up on Saturday. At that point, an MRI hadn’t shown anything and he was waiting for a CT Scan for further investigation. His last communication was a promise to let me know the results.

On Sunday morning, I received a text that literally took my breath away. It said terminal brain cancer…6-12 months. A few days later, he had emergency brain surgery to remove the major portion of the stage 4 Glioblastoma. While the surgery was successful, there were still tumors in four other areas of his brain where the cancer was impossible to remove.

After 11 days in the hospital, Damon and I met in the cafe at our club to catch up. His doctors from UT Southwestern and Duke University determined to attack the remaining areas with chemo and radiation. The prognosis from his collective doctors from the beginning was that he would not survive. Without treatment, his life expectancy was projected at 3-6 months. With treatment, the best he could hope for was maybe 12-15 months.

As Damon shared his story, I barely had words to communicate. Here was a man sharing not only what he had gone through but also what he planned to do with his remaining time…Lord willing. So often in life, we can empathize to some degree with someone going through an extreme trial. In Damon’s case, I couldn’t even begin to imagine how he felt.

As a Christian, Damon shared that he had peace with God and that one of his final major priorities was to make amends with various people where relationships had been strained over the years. Further, he had already taken all the necessary steps to transition his company to his partners and to ensure that his family would be well provided for.

Because of his lengthy service record, Damon was diagnosed with PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) which qualified him for a 70% disability rating. This insured that he would be well taken care of in terms of medical expenses. He explained that just because you fight in a war, you do not automatically receive the tag of PTSD which would limit your disability rating.

For his friends who fought in only Desert Storm, who were subjected to all the same toxins that Damon was, because of the nature of their service, they in many cases did not receive the tag of PTSD. After leaving the service, it is standard procedure for the government to provide medical coverage for five years. However without the 70% disability rating, after five years, the coverage runs out. Unfortunately, there are many cases of veterans coming up with cases of cancer and other issues directly attributed to Desert Storm and yet they are left to take care of themselves with no support from our government.

In mid-November, Damon took his family to Washington including a tour of the White House to share with them a piece of American history that means so much to him. He was able to meet with Secretary of Defense, James Madison, to ask for help for his fellow veterans. Outside of time with family and friends, the effort to seek further help for all veterans struggling with their health would be Damon’s final and most important legacy.

When 2020 hit and the nation was put in quarantine, everything changed.  Damon and I stayed connected via Facebook and phone however we stopped spending any time in person due to obvious reasons.  While no one had any idea how last year was going to play out, I kept thinking things would get better and that I would be able to visit Damon again before the end.

To me, quarantine was like Groundhog Day and the time just seemed to creep.  Then when our gym reopened in late May, it was as if someone hit the fast forward button on life.  Working as a fitness professional during the pandemic was the most difficult time of my professional career and the summer months were really a struggle.  I didn’t forget about Damon, however, I was in my own personal career survival mode and I’m ashamed to say that I didn’t keep the most important things in life in their proper perspective.

This brings us back to the moment that I discovered that he has passed away.  I thought back to the last time we were together.  I certainly didn’t leave that meeting thinking it would be our last time to see each other. 

Time is the most precious commodity in life. You can always make more money or replace material things, but the sands of time can never be regained. Leadership expert John Maxwell offers some unique insight into the value of time in the following:

“Given the choice, would you rather save time or money?  Most people focus on dollars. But how you spend your time is much more important than how you spend your money. Money mistakes can often be corrected, but when you lose time, it’s gone forever.  Your priorities determine how you spend your time, and time is precious.  

The following statements may help you put time in perspective:

To know the value of one year… Ask the student who failed the final exam.
To know the value of one month… Ask the mother of a premature baby.
To know the value of one week… Ask the editor of a weekly news magazine.
To know the value of one day… Ask the wage earner who has six children.
To know the value of one hour… Ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.
To know the value of one minute… Ask the person who missed the plane.
To know the value of one second… Ask the person who survived the accident.
To know the value of one millisecond… Ask the Olympic silver medalist.

Your time is priceless.”

As for my relationship with Damon, the 28 days that passed before I realized he had gone to be with the Lord might as well be an eternity because I can never get them back. However, as a fellow follower of Christ, I do believe with all my heart that I will see my friend again one day.

Closing thoughts for my readers:

Dream big dreams and by all means make plans for your future, however, at the same time, live each day as if it were your last. If you have relationships that need attention, I encourage you to act now. If not now, then when? We are not guaranteed the next five minutes so make the most of your time.

Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit”— yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that.”

James 4:13-15

God bless you Damon for your service to our country.

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Time Proved Me Right

The golf bug bit me at age 11, and I’ve loved the game all my life. As a freshman in high school, I found myself on the golf team in desperate need of hitting the ball further. At 5’7″ and 130 lbs., I needed to put on some weight and get stronger for golf. Oddly enough, one of the seniors who had befriended me was in a similar position. While Bill was a bit taller, he was just as skinny as me and needed just as much help.

So one day, out of the blue, Bill hit me with a question that would lead to a decision that would ultimately shape and define my life. He asked, “Would you like to join the local gym to get stronger for golf?” Can you say hook, line, and sinker? I was all in and only in a huge way.

And that was my humble start with lifting weights. I still remember joining The Gym and our first time being shown around by Wayne, the owner. He was an old-time bodybuilder and was nice enough to give us a general demonstration in using mostly the machines. There were free weights as well and in time we would learn how to perform more advanced exercises as we carefully mimicked the experienced lifters who frequented the gym.

To say we were fired up would be the ultimate understatement. With visions of 300-yard drives dancing in our heads, we dutifully made our way to workout three days a week in addition to our golf practice. Unfortunately, the rest of our team was not so enthusiastic about our new strength training pursuits. “Don’t you know you’re going to ruin your golf swing” they would say.

And it didn’t stop there. One father was particularly negative. His son Greg, a senior, happened to be the best player on the team and was a natural athlete. He was stocky and powerful and built like a running back with lots of speed and had never touched weights in his life. Greg had been physically blessed which gave him an incredible advantage in golf. Unfortunately, Bill and I had to earn our extra distance with good old-fashioned persistence and hard work.

Soon after Bill and I started lifting, I had the good fortune to play at Crown Colony in Lufkin, TX. Over the years, Crown has been ranked among the best country club courses in Texas and is a true treasure located in the heart of The Pineywoods. The head pro, let’s call him “Joe”, had been there for many years and he was the consummate professional. His golf shop was immaculate, and he was known for being a great teacher and player.

Now being young and a little naïve, I thought surely he would be able to give me some good advice on the best way to exercise for golf. You see, in the late ’80s to early ’90s, the bulk of the training information was largely influenced by the bodybuilding community. And while there’s nothing wrong with the sport or its training methods, training to gain maximum muscle mass is not what’s needed to nail 300-yard drives.

Crown Colony Country Club in Lufkin, TX

So when the opportunity presented itself, I walked up to Joe and introduced myself.
I then proceeded to ask my question about how to best exercise to support my game. Unfortunately, I also mentioned that I had been lifting weights and his response almost startled me. He said, “Son, lifting weights will ruin your golf swing! The only thing you should be doing is running to strengthen your legs and squeezing a tennis ball to strengthen your grip.”

At first, I allowed Joe’s negative comments to cause me to doubt my efforts in the gym. But after a few days, my gut told me otherwise. It just seemed to me that a stronger and faster athlete would be better able to excel in any sport including golf. And so I flushed the whole experience and never quit lifting.

In the months to follow, there emerged a tug of war between my two athletic pursuits. While performance in golf initially drove me to the gym, once I started to see my body change, the iron bug bit me as well. Unfortunately, as I grew to love the changes I saw in my body, my golf game suffered. Remember, I had the best of intentions, but my training was largely bodybuilder-based. And golf is an extremely jealous game, as the following quote from the late great Ben Hogan attests.

“If I miss one day’s practice, I notice it. If I miss two days’ practice, the critics notice it.
If I miss three days’ practice, the world notices it.”

Ben Hogan

The moment I slacked off on my practice for the sake of getting in more time at the gym, my game started to deteriorate. From there it was a quick fall to disaster. I left the golf team after my sophomore year and poured all my heart into the gym. One year later in August of 1987, I entered my first bodybuilding contest and placed third in the teenage division. It was a great experience and I will cherish the memories tied to this event for the rest of my life.

As it turned out, the Lone Star Classic in Fort Worth was my one and only show. In the years to follow, with no particular plans to compete, my first priority was school and study followed by my part-time job at the country club. I still trained 4-5 days a week in the gym but my sticks sat in my closet gathering dust until my junior year in college. It was a long season of drought from playing or practicing but I never forgot my first love.

1987 Lone Star Classic

And then due to an odd sequence of events, I found myself after six years of working on the golf course now working inside the clubhouse as the head bartender. I already missed the game working on the course every day and moving inside only made it worse as I had the opportunity to mingle with the golfers. But it would take new hires, Mark and Kyle, who would go on to become two of my best friends in the world, to get me back playing the game. Once they discovered that I used to play on the high school team, they wouldn’t take no for an answer and we set out for our first round together at a little public course in Diboll, TX called Neches Pines.

1990 Neches Pines Diboll, TX

I still to this day, after all these years, remember walking down the fairway together on the first hole. Needless to say, the golf bug took hold once again. Two years later, I graduated from college with a degree in business and joined the PGA of America’s apprentice program. That summer, I moved to The Woodlands and found myself working in the golf shop of the Tournament Players Course where at that time, they hosted the annual Houston Open.

18th Hole – TPC The Woodlands

It was one of the best times of my life. I lifted in the early mornings and spent my days at TPC either working in the golf shop or working on my game. Unfortunately, my training was still not suited to support my game and so I struggled back and forth between wanting to be a great player and wanting to excel with my bodybuilding.

Ultimately, and for all the wrong reasons, I left golf in 1995 to go into sales. I continued playing and practicing and lifting, but these pursuits were now more in the background of my life. Then in the early 2000s, my lower back started failing. It was so bad at times that I could barely walk. Finally, after an MRI, the doctor said I had a herniated disc between my L4 and L5. He said surgery was probably not necessary and recommended physical therapy.

While I only did PT for a few weeks, it helped tremendously. It opened my eyes to core training more for stabilization and nudged me in the direction of my future career path as a fitness professional. The one drawback of PT was that it was recommended that I give up golf for a period of time to help my back heal. You see, the rotational forces of the golf swing can put tremendous pressure on your lumbar spine. I further compounded this stress from my years of whaling away in the gym.

Given the extreme nature of my pain, I took their advice to heart and my sticks went back into the closet for the next thirteen years. And that’s when I found TPI. Actually, that’s not completely accurate. I had known about the Titleist Performance Institute because there was a TPI-certified instructor at one of the facilities where I used to practice. However, I never did any digging to see what they were all about.

They say when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. Well, that’s where I found myself in early 2021. Starting with my back injury in the mid-2000s, I had managed to progressively tear my body apart all in the pursuit of muscle. To quickly recap, the following are my major injuries:

February 2010 – Torn left meniscus resulting in knee surgery

September 2014 – Torn left biceps which wasn’t repaired due to a lack of insurance as I was just starting a new job and my insurance had not kicked in

March 2016 – Right rotator cuff and biceps reattachment surgery

Fall 2016 – An MRI showed multiple tears in my left rotator cuff. After the painful surgery and lengthy recovery on my right shoulder, I made the decision to put off further surgery as long as possible

May 2020 through February 2021 – Increasing pain in my left shoulder and biceps due to the existing tears and the trauma I had experienced back in 2014

The great business philosopher, Jim Rohn, used to teach that you should embrace all of life’s experiences as you never know what you might learn. Well, the last spike of pain that shot through my left biceps and shoulder was the experience that pushed me towards change. It actually happened on a Monday during my leg workout. The pain wasn’t apparent while I was training, however it definitely kicked in later in the day.

It was so bad that I trained at home the rest of that week and most of the following using resistance bands and blending in some cardio at my apartment gym. I just didn’t feel like being in my normal gym environment and needed some quiet time at home. It was during that time that I started watching TPI videos on YouTube. I still can’t tell you the single thought that made me do a search for TPI, however, once I started watching, I couldn’t stop. The more I learned about what TPI offered the more intrigued I became.

After roughly two weeks of watching TPI videos, one thing was clear. They were the gold standard for fitness in professional golf as they had been working with the best players in the world for years. Seeing videos featuring the likes of Adam Scott, Roy Mcllroy, and John Rahm gave me a tremendous feeling of confidence. And so on March 7, 2021, I pulled the trigger on TPI’s Level 1 certification and was able to complete the course a few weeks later.

From the introduction of my studies, it was the story about TPI’s humble beginnings that gave me an overwhelming sense of peace about my decision. You see, when Dr. Greg Rose, co-founder of TPI, started his practice around working with golfers, his friends thought he was crazy. It reminded me of my beginnings with weight training so many years ago, and like me, despite his lack of support, he stayed the course, and time proved him right.

Timing is everything, and when Dr. Rose started his original practice in 1996, it was largely unnoticed by the general public. There was, however, one other event that occurred in 1996 that would turn the golfing world upside down…Tiger Woods turned pro and joined the PGA Tour. They say a rising tide raises all ships. Well, Tiger’s success and impact on the tour benefitted all the players as well as TPI which was later launched in 2003 by Dr. Rose and PGA teaching professional Dave Phillips.

From day one, Tiger stood out like a giant among his peers in terms of his ability. He walked onto the tour as an athlete, unlike anything the game of golf had ever seen. And in time, he would further push his body to the limits of his physical abilities as he strived to maximize his potential while systematically dismantling the record books.

Tiger Woods, 1996 Las Vegas Invitational

Before Tiger, the “Triangle of Instruction” as described by Dr. Rose was made up of a swing coach, a mental coach, and an equipment representative. Well, Tiger changed that old paradigm completely. Today, players still work with a swing coach however they will often also work with a specialty coach for example with their short game or shot-making or course management.

As a singular sport, players will often still seek the help of a sports psychologist, and having a trusted equipment rep is vital. However, the one area where Tiger really changed the game is with the physical preparation. Today, every player on the PGA tour and other tours around the world works out regularly. The players are bigger, faster, stronger, and FAR MORE ATHLETIC than ever in the history of the sport. If you want to play on any professional tour today, paying your dues in the weight room is table stakes and the Titleist Performance Institute is the gold standard.

18 of the last 20 Major Championships were won by players advised by a TPI Certified Expert

25 of the Top 30 Players in the World according to the Official World Golf Rankings are advised by a TPI Certified Expert

47 of Golf Digest’s Top 50 Golf Fitness Professionals are TPI Certified or TPI Advisory Board Members

TPI Golf Performance Center

TPI has given me a second chance to train both for longevity and performance and to share my new skill set with all my clients as well as our overall member base who play the great game of golf.

Today, I feel like a kid again with a new and powerful set of toys to serve my clients and take better care of myself. My favorite is the screening app TPI developed to test a player’s ability to efficiently swing the golf club. This is the same exact tool they use with tour players, and in fact, it was developed by studying the best players in the world. Essentially, they’ve identified fifteen micro moves the body needs to perform to efficiently and safely swing a golf club.

Golf Performance Screen

The whole process takes under an hour and the app produces a detailed report based on how the player scores. It gives a handicap where players can work to reduce their scores by applying corrective strength training and mobility exercises. The science that TPI has thrown at the game of golf over the past 18+ years is truly amazing and the impact has forever changed the way the game will be played.

Closing thoughts for my readers:

On Sunday, May 23rd, Phil Mickelson made history by becoming the oldest player at 50 to win a major championship. Phil’s 2021 PGA Championship victory eclipsed the previous best set by Julius Boros some 53 years earlier at the age of 48. When asked during his post-round press conference how he was able to pull this off, he attributed much of his success to long and hard work on his game made possible by better nutrition and time spent in the gym.

Phil Michelson 2021 PGA Championship

“There’s no reason why the game of golf can’t be a game for a lifetime. If you take care of your body and do it the right way, and now with the exercise and physiology and technology that’s out there, like with TPI, you can work out the right way to get your body to function right and play golf for a lifetime. I’m very appreciative of that.”

Phil Michelson

A proud champion

As I think back on my journey, it’s been an interesting trip with its fair share of ups and downs. And yet, as I reflect back, everything I’ve gone through has brought me to this present moment better prepared to serve my clients. The knowledge that I’ve gained from TPI has quite literally changed my life, and thanks to their overall success and influence in the world of golf, time has ultimately proved me right.

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How Are You Shaping Your Path?

How are you shaping your path?  If you’ve not read the book, Switch by Chip and Dan Heath, you may have no idea what I’m referring to.  You see, you have two brains which the authors represent with the analogy of an elephant and a rider.  The rider represents your logical “thinky” brain which typically runs the show and is responsible for most of your daily decisions.  The elephant, on the other hand, is your more powerful and primal emotional brain that will take over when the rider tires or when threatened.

The example that I often share with my clients is of an elephant and rider at the circus under the big top with thousands of fans watching in amazement and wonder.  Under normal circumstances, the elephant dutifully follows the rider’s every instruction.  However, if you set the tent on fire and the tigers escape from their cages, the elephant will cease following the rider and in a state of sheer panic, will be looking for the nearest exit.

That’s how it is with your efforts to change any area of your life.  You can have the best of intentions, but if your environment is working against you, as in the burning tent resulting in a panicking elephant, the voice of your logical brain will be lost in the chaos.  So, what’s the solution?  You must shape your path and or control as much as possible the influences that impact the environments that make up your life.

The four areas of concern are as follows:

1 – Social environment – The people you spend the most time with both at work and at play.

2 – Cultural environment – This is a tricky area because you may go up against beliefs that have been in place for many years and quite possibly your entire life.

3 – Intellectual environment – This is the information you take in from all sources including TV, social media, books & magazines, podcast, music, movies, and etc.

4 – Physical environment – This includes your homes, workplace, and places where you gather and socialize with others.

To paraphrase my mentor, Darren Hardy, these influences are powerful in your life, and yet they don’t shove you in a direction…they merely nudge you.  And still, over a period of time of being just a little off daily, you can wake up one day and find your life completely out of control.

Social Environment

One of my favorite quotes from the late, great Charlie “Tremendous” Jones is as follows:

“You’re the same today as you’ll be in five years except for the people you meet and the books you read.”

How often did you hear from your Mothers as children to be careful with the friends you choose to play with?  Apparently, Charlie and your Mothers were on the same page and they got it right because your associations will make or break you.  So, by all means, choose wisely.

To expand on the first half of his quote, the people you spend time with will influence your thinking, which drives your choices.  It’s been said that you will be the average of the top 5-10 people that you spend the most time with.  To whatever degree this is true, I defer back to the Good Book: 

“He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed!”
Proverbs 13:20

Every experience in your life with other people will leave its mark…for better or worse.  So, you really should be careful with your associations in all cases.  Obviously, there will be situations where you have little to no control over the people you’re surrounded by such as at your place of work.  And yet, you still have a choice in how you conduct yourself and how much you choose to interact beyond what is professionally required to excel with your job and career.

For many, it will be extremely beneficial to take a hard look at all your associations and evaluate whether these relationships are in alignment with your priorities and goals.  You may have some difficult choices to make in either spending less time or potentially cutting ties with various people should you determine that they are not a good influence in your life.

On the flip side, you may determine that you need to add more quality associations with people who already have the knowledge, wisdom, and success that you’re seeking.  These expanded associations can make a tremendous and positive impact on your life.  And with today’s technology and tools such as LinkedIn, building these expanded associations has never been easier.

Cultural Environment

For the influence of your native culture, I will tread very lightly.  All cultures have their unique attributes and some can be challenging when it comes to achieving and maintaining optimal health and body composition.  For example, Italian cuisine is known for its pizza and pasta.  In addition, cheese and wine make up a large portion of the cuisine with many varieties.  These are all calorically dense foods that could make it difficult to maintain a healthy weight without a strong degree of restraint and self-discipline.

The staple foods of Indian cuisine include pearl millet (bājra), rice, whole-wheat flour (aṭṭa), and a variety of lentils, such as masoor (most often red lentils), tuer (pigeon peas), urad (black gram), and moong (mung beans).  Most Indian meals (depending on whether your host is vegetarian or not) are comprised of rice, Chapati (flatbread), meat, vegetable and lentil dishes, salad, yogurt, and pickles.

I have worked with many clients in my career who have followed one of the numerous variations of a plant-based diet and the biggest challenge always seems to be in getting enough protein.  The more they go in the plant-based direction, restricting other foods, the more difficult it becomes in getting enough protein. 

Now please, all of you plant-based nutrition followers out there, don’t blow up my post.  Plant-based eating can be very healthy when done right.  My boss is 5′ 9″, 190 lbs, and carries less than 10% body fat.  He’s built like a Mack truck and he follows a mostly plant-based diet.  Clearly from his results, he’s getting plenty of protein and is quite healthy overall.

Brad Siegel, Senior PT Dpt Mgr Life Time Healthy Way of Life

My biggest point is that regardless of your culture and its particular traditions around food, you can maintain very healthy body weight and composition if you know what you’re doing.  Regardless of your heritage, eating healthy simply requires knowledge and discipline.

Intellectual Environment

For your intellectual environment, I’m going to break it down into two parts, “feed” and “protect”.


Every bit of information you take in will affect you for better or worse.  Every source of media you consume will influence your thinking which drives your decision-making and ultimately your life.  My mentor Andy Andrews teaches that there’s no such thing as treading water.  Every experience in your life is moving you closer or taking you further from your goals.  And the choice is yours as to how you spend your time.   

Due to some early positive and wise influences in my life, I have been a student of personal development since my days in college.  I’ve never been in the habit of watching the news any more than the bare minimum required to stay abreast of what’s going on in the world.  And I’ve always been proactive in feeding my mind with positive growth-oriented information.  In today’s world, that’s countercultural to the masses for the most part.  By the way, if you want to be successful, look at what the majority is doing and go in the opposite direction. 

Brian Tracy teaches a concept called the E to E ratio.  It is the ratio of time you spend entertaining yourself versus educating yourself.  If you look at the highest achievers in the world, they intentionally invest time in furthering their growth…especially in the areas of their passions and strengths.  In contrast, the average person spends far more time entertaining themself and as a result, they stay a part of the masses achieving far less in life than they could if they only challenged themself to grow.

If you’re not currently investing in your personal growth, I encourage you to get started.  Most people underestimate the value of small blocks of time.  For example, if you commute 20 minutes to and from work every day, that small investment of time equates to just over four, forty-hour work weeks annually.  Now, you can spend this time listening to music or sports talk radio which is bubblegum for your mind or you can listen to an educational podcast or audiobook which can quite literally change your life over a period of time.  The choice is yours.

Look for the small spaces in your day where you can layer in listening to something positive while you’re doing another activity.  I personally listen to a couple of hours’ worth of growth-oriented audio every morning before and after the gym and while getting ready for my workday.  Darren Hardy calls this “net time”.  You’re already doing the other activity and so make the most of it by feeding your mind wherever it makes sense.


In our technologically hyper-connected world, negative news media will beat a path to your door.  The news machine is in an all-out battle to get and maintain your attention.  And trust me, it’s not by sharing messages of hope and inspiration.  These will go mostly unnoticed.  You respond far more to shock and awe and the news media knows this.  They know you in some cases better than you know yourself and they are absolutely maximizing this knowledge to monetize their message through advertising $’s. 

You have to build a fortress to guard your heart and mind.  And despite your best efforts, the negative news of the world will find its way in.  That’s why it’s so critical to continue flushing your mind with positive information daily.     

Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.
Proverbs 4:23

Physical environment

Where do you do life?  Beyond your homes, you work, play, travel, worship, and serve in many different environments.  For most, your homes are the one place where you have total control and I will circle back to this in a moment.  For the rest, consider the same suggestion I gave above regarding your associations.  Be very careful with the different places you “do life”.  You may determine that you need to make some changes if you identify an area where you frequent that’s ultimately a negative influence in your life.

This includes your job.  Life is too short to spend the bulk of your waking hours doing something that doesn’t make you happy.  A career change is typically not easy and can seem quite daunting, however, if you’re not happy, then be willing to seek a positive change.

Leadership expert John Maxwell gives some great counsel on making a change in your career path.  First, figure out what you really want to do.  Then figure out what you need to do to get there.  Even if it involves a process like getting further education, determine if the price is worth it, and if it is, then get to work paying the price.  And be very careful to dismiss an opportunity because the process takes time.  The time is going to pass regardless and you can look back with a sense of accomplishment or with the dreadful feeling of regret for having been unwilling to change.

Now, once you’ve pruned your life of any negative environments, you still need to have a game plan for how to thrive in what’s left.  For example, if you work in an office where people routinely eat fast food for lunch and make unhealthy choices for snacks, you have to be prepared with your own healthy choices.  If you go to work each day unprepared, then you are all the more likely to be influenced by your associates and join in with their unhealthy practices.

Your gold-standard solution is to meal prep on the weekends so you can always be prepared with healthy meals and snacks throughout the day as needed.  And if eating out is a part of your normal routine, then have a game plan for that as well.  Your choice of restaurant is the first big decision that can make or break you.  The better the restaurant, the easier it will be to make healthy choices.  And better does not necessarily mean more expensive.  Just shoot for a place where you can get a good portion of clean protein, veggies, and smart carbs and you will be good.

As I mentioned above, there is one environment where you have total control and you must make the most of it.  If your home is your castle, then be sure to treat it as such.  This includes both the environment in your home and the things you bring into your home…namely food.

Please hear me on this.  Discipline is to be exhibited at the grocery store…not when you’re staring at the tub of Ben & Jerries in your freezer.  Whatever your choice of indulgence, if you bring it home, you will eventually eat it.  The better your choices when shopping for groceries, the easier it will be to stay on track once you’re back home.

And please don’t think I’m suggesting that you never have ice cream or any other kind of treat.  I address the idea of treating yourself in depth in “No Cheat Meals Required”.  Still, you need to be smart about the quality and quantity of “treat” foods that you bring into your home.  For example, if you struggle with occasionally losing control when eating ice cream, then consider only bringing home a pint-sized container rather than a gallon.  Another huge consideration is to opt for lower-calorie options such as Halo Top or even make your own healthy treats. 

You have to understand that food manufacturers know how to combine sugar, fat, and salt in a way that makes some foods almost irresistible.  Ever taken a bite and found yourself wanting the rest of the tub?  That’s how full-sugar and full-fat foods in particular impact your brain.  The old saying, “you can’t just eat one” can really be true.  In contrast, you can make some amazingly good-tasting healthy treats that will not impact your brain in the same way.  To me, this is a much better way to go where you can treat yourself regularly without running so much of a risk of overindulging.

Protein Oatmeal & Raisin Cookies

I have one more thought on your home not related to food.  If you’re motivated by inspirational sayings and artwork, be sure to take advantage of this and decorate your home accordingly.  I teach my clients constantly about the importance of identifying your “why” and then having it strategically posted around your home.  It could be as simple as post-it notes on your bathroom mirror, fridge, microwave, pantry, laptop, and etc.

Your “why” should be your guiding beacon and trust me, there will be days when you will need it to stay on track.  Remember, if your “why” is big enough, the facts don’t matter.  You will never always feel like doing the things necessary to be successful and that really doesn’t matter.  Do them anyway because they’re the right things to do and your “why” is worth it.

Closing thoughts for my readers: 

In closing, I will ask again my opening question.  How are you shaping your path?  After years of working with clients and doing countless consultations geared around helping people improve their physical and emotional health, the information I’ve shared in this post really strikes at the heart of where and why people struggle.  

If you’re not happy with where you are in life in any capacity, then be willing to change.  You know the definition of insanity, don’t you?  It’s doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.  If you want things to be different in your life, then you have to be willing to change.

A great method for goal achievement is to determine your ultimate destination.  Then break it down to what you have to do each month.  Then break it down to each week.  And then down to what you need to do…this very day.

And then act.  A journey of a thousand miles truly starts with a single step.

Best of luck in your journey.


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Where the Nutritional Rubber Meets the Road

Name your diet.  I don’t care whether it’s Keto, South Beach, Atkins, Whole 30, or any other program.  Unless you’re willing to follow the simple steps below, you will struggle to achieve success.

What do I mean?  Well, it’s pretty simple.  For you to have a healthy meal or snack at any point during the day, not including eating out or purchasing a pre-made product like an Icon meal, three steps have to take place.

1You have to plan in advance what you’re going to eat for the next week.  For most people, one week at a time is enough.

2Your plan will drive your shopping list and then you actually have to purchase the food.  In today’s world with grocery pick up and delivery service, this has never been easier.

3And finally, some combination of meal prepping and cooking will be required.  Having a strategic meal prepping routine will generally make things much easier once you get into your workweek where time can be precious and life schedules crazy.  Then it can be as simple as warming up one of your prepped meals and you’re good to go.  There are endless strategies that can be utilized.  The bottom line is that you’re not starting each meal from scratch.


Now, these steps might seem totally obvious and yet this is where I see people struggle the most.  It doesn’t matter what nutrition plan you’re following, if you’re not willing to do the latter steps and become proficient at them, you will find consistently eating healthy to be a challenge.  A classic example is doing a poor job of planning which results in not purchasing enough food for the week.  Then later in the week when the healthy food runs out, many will take the path of least resistance and head for McDonald’s or whatever their quick fix preference may be.

Don’t believe me?  Well, the two biggest excuses I get from my clients are that they ran out of food or they didn’t have time to cook.  Running out of food should not happen if you carefully plan for the week ahead.  And running out of time is a poor excuse.  The truth is that they failed to prioritize the time to meal prep which streamlines the cooking process significantly.  Seriously, if you have the time to run through a fast-food drive-through window on your way home, you have the time to warm up a prepped meal that should be waiting in your fridge.

For example, I cook all my lunch and dinner protein portions on the weekend which saves me a ton of time during the workweek when the bullets are flying.  Then day by day, I simply steam my veggies and starchy carbs by microwave.  The protein just needs to be warmed up and presto, a hot healthy great-tasting meal.

The Continuum – Home Cooked Meals Versus Eating Out

Above, I mentioned not eating out or using pre-made meals.  Eating out socially and professionally is a normal part of life so please don’t think I’m suggesting that you never eat out.  And pre-made meals can be an excellent source of clean nutrition whether you’re on the go or using them regularly as a part of your weekly game plan.

The Challenges with Eating Out That Can Be Problematic

1 – Quick and Easy:  When you’re looking for something quick and easy, it generally means fast food.  While you can make healthy choices, the unhealthy landmines that you must dodge can often take you out in a fleeting moment of rationalization.  For example, justifying ordering the French fries because it’s been a long and hard day at work.

2 – Peer Pressure:  When you’re out with a group who’s not into eating healthy, you being the odd one out can be difficult.  Unless your discipline is extraordinary, peer pressure can often cause you to again, rationalize choices you shouldn’t be making.

3 – Too Many Choices:  Restaurants today like The Cheesecake Factory or its equally amazing sibling, Grand Lux have menus like old-fashioned encyclopedias.  And while you can successfully navigate the abundance of indulgent options to make healthy choices, your willpower had better be fully charged.  Unfortunately, many people stumble into these restaurants unprepared, lose their minds, and as my Dad used to say, end up with eyes bigger than their stomachs and ultimately eat way too much.  And you know, there’s nothing wrong with that occasionally, however, if you’re trying to make a significant change in your body composition, and you’re hitting your favorite spot regularly, the odds are stacked against you.

My Client Gio

When I first shared the “plan, shop, meal prep/cook” concept above with my long-time client Gio, he replied back, “Kelly, there’s no way I can rely solely on eating my own food from home.”  Further, he said, “I have to take clients to lunch almost every day of the week as that’s the nature of my business.”

Now I never intended to make him feel like he had to eat only his own home-cooked meals and yet that’s how he took it.  That was an ah-ha moment for me for sure and now I always share my little concept carefully explaining that eating out and utilizing pre-made meals can certainly be a part of anyone’s success plan.  That’s also why I don’t do “cookie-cutter” programs.  I always design my client’s nutrition plans around their individual needs including their lifestyle.

That was a relief to Gio who used to eat out practically every meal, and he was not always making great choices.  Now our custom plan for him is to cook his own breakfast, eat out for lunch most days of the week (making healthy choices), having his own shake in the afternoon, and hitting about 50/50 on eating out or cooking at home for dinner.  This is Gio’s plan and it’s working because he believes in what he’s doing and because it’s a sound strategy where I hold him accountable weekly.

My Client Mark  

Mark walked into our club in May of 2020.  He said he was looking for a trainer who was knowledgeable about nutrition and my boss pointed him to me.  Mark from day one did zero cooking.  He had a shake for breakfast, ate out for lunch, a shake post-workout in the afternoon, and ate out for dinner.

Since he was not ready to start cooking, I encouraged him that we would make the best of his eating out.  I did give him guidance for portion control and tweaked his shakes to maximize his nutrition.  When we started working together, Mark weighed about 208 lbs.  Over the course of the summer, his muscle mass and strength consistently increased while his bodyfat trended down.  His body changed and he definitely looked better and yet he still weighed a little over 200 lbs.

When September hit, he was emotionally ready to embrace the shift to start cooking at home.  We didn’t go 100% however he made a strong move in that direction cutting his restaurant meals dramatically.  By the first of November, Mark was down to 192 lbs. which lined up perfectly with Life Time’s Holiday 60 Day Challenge.  I encouraged Mark to enter and he did.

Two grueling months later, Mark finished the contest at 174 lbs. and placed in the top 20 finalists for the nation.  I was thrilled for him considering how far he had come especially with the struggles he had endured in his personal life in the years before our meeting.  He had gone through numerous trials that no one his age should ever have to endure.  And yet, he survived and ultimately thrived to become the man he is today.

Now, to me, both Gio and Mark are successful with their respective plans.  For Gio’s current lifestyle and goals, his blended approach of cooking at home and eating out is working well.  He doesn’t have the same goals as Mark who had to push the continuum much further towards relying on home-cooked meals to reach his goals.  And now, he’s pushing the envelope even further and we prepare for him to enter his first physique competition in early 2022.

I share these stories to show what success looks like to two completely unrelated clients.  And let me be clear, neither is following a plan superior to the other.  Gio is a much better representation of the average fitness enthusiast and he is making progress.  Mark is pursuing a goal that few ever consider and there will be a higher price for the leanness and overall condition that he seeks.  The important thing is that each has a plan for achieving his goals and both include the plan, shop, meal prep/cook concept that I’ve shared.

For Mark’s goals, eating out has become more of a luxury and a treat to reward himself for his hard work and discipline.  For Gio, eating out is much more a part of his daily life and it works.  In either case, when they do eat out, they have a plan for portion control.  Now please don’t get me wrong.  I’m not a total control freak and allow all my clients to enjoy themselves when it comes to food.  In fact, one of the first blogs I ever published is titled “You Don’t Have to Be Perfect”.  Life is too short to live on grilled chicken, steamed broccoli, and dry baked potato.  You can have your proverbial “cake” and eat it too.

Closing thoughts for my readers:

Last October of 2020, I wrapped up Precision Nutrition’s Level II Certification.  It was a year-long course that completely changed the way I approach nutrition coaching.  It was towards the end of the program where I had the clarity of thoughts regarding the process I spelled out above and I’ve shared it with countless people over the past few months.

Without fail, my message always resonates and they agree that eating good-tasting healthy meals is not a challenge.  It’s doing the work to plan, shop, and prep/cook that produces the healthy meals where people struggle.  If you have the good fortune of having a professional chef running around behind you every day providing gourmet-level healthy meals designed just for your specific needs, achieving optimal health would be a good bit easier.  Unfortunately, most do not have that luxury.

I teach my clients and encourage them to take things one step at a time.  With few exceptions, any positive new behavior is going to yield results.  So depending on where you fall on the continuum of eating out versus eating home-cooked meals, figure out what works best for you and then stick to your plan.  And then for your meals that you’re cooking at home, consider implementing what I’ve shared.  It may be intimidating at first however, with time, it will get easier and easier.  And I promise, the better you get at planning, shopping, and meal prepping, the easier your life will be in terms of reaching and maintaining optimal health.

Best of luck in your journey.

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Robyn…My Complex Client

After a lengthy conversation with her parents, I now sat face to face with 18-year-old Robyn in what seemed like a stare off deathmatch.  It had only been a few minutes since Robyn took her seat in my office and yet it seemed like an eternity.  Beyond her acknowledging my initial greeting, she had not spoken a word.  I needed an ice breaker and I needed one fast.

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Robyn’s Mom had called the prior week and gave me some interesting background information on her daughter’s emotional struggles.  From that conversation, it sounded like Robyn could be suffering from a mild case of Alexithymia.  All things considered, working with a teenage female athlete with eating & emotional issues would be a challenging case.  I hoped my past struggles with food combined with my education and competitive background would be just the right combo to bridge the age gap and help me connect with Robyn.

“So, Robyn, how are you?”  “Fine” was her only reply followed by more silence.  Undeterred, I asked my next question.  “So, your parents tell me you’re a long-distance runner on your high school team.  Can you tell me a little bit more about your running?”  “Crickets” was the overwhelming response.  Clearly, I had my work cut out for me.

From Robyn’s client folder, I pulled out several newspaper clippings and gently slid them across my desk for her to see.  They were all from Robyn’s younger days when she first started running in junior high.  She slowly reached out and picked up one of the articles.  Then she took the second and finally the third.  She didn’t say a word however I could see the tears start to well up in her eyes and begin falling down her cheeks.

I slowly placed a box of Kleenex within her reach and she took several.  After a minute or so of quiet tears, she composed herself and commented: “These articles are from my first three victories back in 7th grade.  How did you find them?”  “Well, I just did a simple search on Google.  So, how does seeing them make you feel?”  “Sad” was her immediate response as she wiped her eyes again.

“Can you tell me why?”  Robyn paused for a moment and then replied, “These articles are from a time when my life made sense…before things started falling apart.”  I had obviously touched a nerve and decided to go in a different direction with my questioning for fear of Robyn emotionally crumbling again.

“So, Robyn, can you tell me how you got started with your running?”  “Well, as a child growing up, we lived out in the country with no neighbors for several miles.  I was shy, lacked confidence, never had many friends, and was always considered a nerd by my classmates because I got straight A’s.”  “So, when did you start running?”  “Well, my parents have always been runners, and one day during my 5th-grade year, I asked if I could join them.  We only went a couple of miles but I enjoyed it and started running with them several days a week.”

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“Soon I began to run on my own and ultimately fell in love with the adrenaline rush as the distances mounted.  When I started junior high, my school had a running team that my parents encouraged me to join.  It was one of the best things I’ve ever done because it finally gave me a social outlet, some much-needed friends, and recognition that helped with my lack of confidence.  After my three wins in 7th grade, I went on to win a number of races in 8th grade and on into high school.  Ultimately, I wanted to be an elite marathoner and compete at the highest levels…before everything changed.”

“So what happened?  What do you mean, everything changed?”  Robyn paused for a  moment and I could see we were moving back into dangerous territory.  “While I grew taller from junior high to early high school, my body didn’t start filling out until the summer after my sophomore year.  I went from being tall, long, and lanky to quite full-figured.  I didn’t get fat…I just got curves…and lot’s of them.  Unfortunately, the more my body changed, the harder it became for me to run.” 

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“How did this make you feel?”  “It was devastating” replied Robyn.  “All my hard work seemed like it was for nothing.  While I ran in my junior year, I didn’t win anything and it became increasingly difficult to run anything more than 3-4 miles.  It wasn’t that I lost my endurance.  It was just uncomfortable to run for extended distances with “these” (as she pointed to her breasts).  Then to make matters worse, I wasn’t used to being ogled over by boys in regular clothes…much less in my running outfit.  It was so humiliating to run with “these” (again pointing to her breasts).  I grew up idolizing athletes…not fashion models.”

“Robyn, I’m proud of you for sharing about your running.  I know that it brings up many raw emotions.  Now can I have your permission to ask a more personal question?”  Robyn paused before replying, “Well, I guess it depends.  Go ahead and ask your question, and I will do my best.”  “Fair enough.  Robyn, your parents are concerned about your eating habits.  Can you share with me why they might be worried?”

Robyn’s response was immediate silence followed by more tears.  I couldn’t turn back now because her eating had to be addressed.  I just hoped she would maintain her composure and be willing to share.  After taking a moment to gather herself again, Robyn replied, “My parents have always been healthy eaters and I simply followed their example.  When I started running and eventually competing, I became more intentional with my nutrition but it was never an issue.”

“So when did things change?”  Robyn took a deep breath before replying, “When my body started really filling out, I tried to fight the changes by restricting my food intake.  At first, it wasn’t a big deal, but as my body continued to grow and change, I became increasingly obsessive and compulsive in restricting my intake…and then it happened.”

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“What happened?” I gently asked.  “I had my first binge” was her soft reply.  “I was getting so hungry and one day Mom brought home some cookies and ice cream for an upcoming party at her office.  I was just going to have a little ice cream and a couple of cookies and the next thing I knew, I had knocked out a dozen or so cookies and about half of the gallon of ice cream.  I just couldn’t stop.”

“And then what happened?”  Robyn took in another deep breath and then replied, “I was so ashamed and embarrassed and vowed to never do anything like that again.  I felt sick for a couple of days and then the discomfort finally wore off.  Then it was back to restricting again and after a couple of weeks, it happened again.  This time I purposefully bought some cookies and ice cream on my way home from school and ate them in the car…to hide it from my parents.”

“After that, the cycle continued where I would restrict for a week or so only to fall again.  The harder I tried to restrict my eating, the more I lost control.  It was easy enough to hide physically as I would often eat in my car but I knew my parents and my Mom especially was picking up on the change in my mood.  The more I binged, the more out of control I felt, and the more ashamed I became.  Any time I binged, I would withdraw socially and just want to hide in my room.  I didn’t and don’t know how to stop and that’s why my parents reached out to you.” 

“Robyn, can I tell you a little story?”  She slowly nodded her head as she wiped the fresh tears from her eyes.  “Robyn, there was a young boy who grew up “pudgy” and like you, he had few friends and was very selfconscious about his weight.  In 8th grade, because he was such a strong swimmer, he had the great fortune to join his high school swim team.  In a very short period of time, the boy was pudgy no more.  Swimming five days a week at an average of 5,000 yards a day stripped the fat off his body.”

“Further, his swim coach had the team lift weights to get stronger and that changed the boy’s life.  He only swam competitively for one year, however, the “iron bug” firmly took hold.  He competed in his first bodybuilding show at 17 and placed third.  At that point, his potential seemed great and yet it would be years before his next and final show.”  “What happened to him?” Robyn asked.  “Well, despite how hard he trained, he simply didn’t have the genetics to put on the size required to compete at any level beyond his one and only teenage show.”

That’s “me” on the right

“Unfortunately, in his quest to achieve physical excellence, his obsession caused him to lose control of his eating.  For reasons similar to yours, he too fell prey to cycles of binging and purging through extra training and restricting his food.  While he did compete again one time many years after his first show, the damage he suffered from failed relationships as a result of his eating was devastating.”

My last show…

“So what happened to him?”  “Well, I would like to say he learned his lesson and changed his ways sooner however it took “me” suffering left knee surgery, a torn left bicep, right shoulder surgery, and a failed marriage to wake me up from my delusions.”  Robyn paused and then asked, “So the boy is you?”  “Yes, he is and that’s why I’m sharing this story.  Robyn, I see so much of me in you and it’s my hope that we can work together and cut your further suffering off as soon as possible.”

“What do you suggest?”  “Robyn, as much as it hurts, God simply did not give you the genetics to be a distance runner at the highest levels.  That doesn’t mean you can’t go on enjoying running recreationally for the joy and health benefits.  You shared how much you struggled last year and you’re facing your senior year of high school.  There’s no reason why you have to continue punishing yourself.  You just need to find it in your heart to walk away from competitive running.”

Robyn sat silent and then finally asked, “Do you really think I can be happy just running for fun?”  “Robyn, you haven’t been happy running for sport in over a year.  What do you have to lose?  By the way, your Mom mentioned that you want to go to medical school.  Is that right?”  “Yes, I do however my grades really slipped last year falling to a B average as I struggled with my running.”

“Robyn, the way I see it, your future is still very bright.  You’ve been gifted with an intellect few have and you have your entire senior year to pull your grades back up to your normal standards.  Running can always be a part of your life.  You just need to make a little shift and then continue moving forward on the road to medical school.”  

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“So what about my binging?”  “Robyn, your binging is a simple result of you overly depriving yourself in an attempt to fight your God-given body.  It’s a common response for someone dealing with your circumstances so I want you to give yourself a break.  I can help you get back to eating for health and to properly fuel your body for daily life…minus the obsessive-compulsive nature you’ve been struggling with.  Further, your immune system will strengthen protecting you from getting sick so often.”  “Is it really that easy?”  “It can be if you’re willing to trust me.”

“So what’s our first step?” Robyn eagerly asked.  “Well, I definitely have some thoughts, but first let me ask, are you really emotionally prepared to let go of your running team?”
“Honestly, I struggled all of last year and really don’t know how I held on.  From what we’ve talked about, it makes all the sense in the world to walk away.  It won’t be easy, however, it’s the right thing to do…and I know my parents will be pleased.”

“Robyn, I’m so proud of you!  So, moving forward, when will you do your personal running?”  Robyn was quick to reply that she loves running in the early mornings before the world wakes up.  “Great.  Well, as I said, your binging is a result of being overly restrictive with your food.  What do you think about focusing for the next two weeks on having a healthy breakfast, lunch, afternoon snack, and dinner?”

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“That sounds simple enough” replied Robyn.  “Exactly.  I will never ask you to do anything complicated.  I want you with high emotional buy-in to feel confident that you can accomplish any task, we agree for you to work on.  Now, you know what healthy eating is so at this point, I don’t want you concerning yourself with counting anything.  Simply have your three meals plus your afternoon snack and be mindful to eat healthy foods and we will meet again in two weeks.”

“Also, for the sake of daily accountability, would you be open to using a tool that I’ve shared with many of my clients?  It’s called the ATE app and you simply take a photo of each meal.  At the end of the day, I can go in as your “friend” and take a peek at your daily meals.  I promise that you knowing that I will be looking at your daily efforts will help you make better choices.  So, what do you think?”  “That sounds pretty cool!  I’m definitely willing to give it a shot.”

“Okay, then pull out your phone, and let’s have you download the app.  I will make sure you’re good to go and then we can schedule your next session.  Robyn, I’m proud of your efforts today.  I know our conversation wasn’t easy and I promise you can do this.”        

Closing thoughts for my readers:

Robyn is actually not one of my clients.  In fact, she’s completely made up and was the topic of a recent case study I submitted for my Precision Nutrition Level 2 certification.  And while not real, I see both women and men struggling daily with circumstances just like her.  After eight months of Pn2 course work and many case studies submitted, there was something about Robyn’s story that resonated with me to the point that I wanted to share. 

Best of luck in your journey.


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The Top 10 Lessons I’ve Learned From Darren Hardy – Part 2

This post is part two of a follow-up to the background story for how I met Darren Hardy. The following is the second half of the top lessons I’ve learned over the past eight years from the man who has become one of my most influential mentors.  

From Darren’s book, “The Entrepreneur Roller Coaster”:

6 – Habituating to Fear

One of my favorite stories is from Darren’s early days of playing baseball and learning to bat from his Dad.  His challenge was staying in the batter’s box due to a fear of being hit by the ball.  The further challenge was that Darren’s Dad was a hardcore,  man’s man football coach, who could have doubled for Gunnery Sergent Hartman from “Full Metal Jacket”.  So, for Darren to be afraid of being hit by the ball was completely unacceptable. 

The solution to conquering his fear was to remove the need for fear in the first place.  Darren’s Dad started their batting practice with Wiffle balls to help him learn to stay in the batter’s box.  Initially, Mr. Hardy threw right at Darren over and over teaching him not to flinch at the sight of the approaching ball.  Being hit by a Wiffle ball was essentially painless, and yet the repetition of the drill taught him to stay rock-solid versus jumping out of the way.

Gradually Mr. Hardy started throwing over the plate so Darren could actually swing at the ball.  Occasionally, he would still beam Darren just to remind him that being hit was okay.  Once he conquered Wiffle balls, they moved up to tennis balls repeating the same process.
Now being hit by the tennis balls did sting a little, however, with his strengthened resolve, they moved on to actual baseballs.

Now Mr. Hardy was not going to intentionally hit Darren with a baseball and yet the potential for being accidentally hit was still intimidating.  To sweeten the deal, the agreement was that if he was hit three times, he earned a trip to get pizza.  Now Darren LOVED pizza, and while the baseballs did hurt a bit, he quickly learned that a few moments of pain were well worth the payoff of a large pepperoni & sausage.  

Ultimately Darren’s weakness became a tremendous strength as he became quite accomplished at getting on base because he learned to conquer his fear.  And you can do the same with whatever fear is holding you back.  Simply break it down to the smallest possible step…and then take the step.  If appropriate, build in a reward system like Darren’s trip to the local pizza parlor.  One small step at a time with the right mindset will allow you to conquer any fear you may have.

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7 – Failing Your Way to Success 

Michael Jordan ranks in the all-time top ten for the most shots missed and yet he is arguably considered the greatest player in NBA history.  Thomas J. Watson of IBM had a philosophy of embracing failure.  In fact, he believed that ultimate success was found on the far side of failure.  And Jeff Bezos of has burned 100’s of millions of dollars in the process of building the most successful company on the planet.  Amazon has built a culture of failure that drives their universe denting success.  

Darren learned this valuable lesson during his early days of selling real estate.  In a down market, where most of the veterans in his office waited for the phone to ring, Darren forced success by stacking up failures.  He would go door to door approaching homes listed as For Sale By Owner and then spent hours on the phone in the evenings calling on expired listings.  He went from being the rookie to the top agent in his office by pushing the pendulum so far to the side of failure, that it catapulted him to the extreme opposite side of success.  

It was a numbers game much like a lesson I learned from my first sales manager.  In a deck of cards, you have 52 cards with 12 face cards.  With the deck face down, drawing one card at a time, it is impossible to not eventually draw a face card.  You know they’re in there…you just have to trust the process and run the numbers until the numbers prove you right.  When applied to life, the challenge is to simply have the intestinal fortitude to go through the struggles needed to ultimately reach success.       

From Darren’s digital program, “Insane Productivity:

8 – Digital Addiction 

The single biggest threat to our productivity in today’s world is distractions.  Between our phones, tablets, computers, social media, and the seemingly endless number of apps, our attention is constantly being pulled into a multitude of different directions.  And the problem is that for the most part, we’ve done it to ourselves…and we love it. 

I say we love it because according to, “For many people, social interaction stimulates the release of dopamine. Because so many people use their phones as tools of social interaction, they become accustomed to constantly checking them for that hit of dopamine that’s released when they connect with others on social media or some other app.”  So, digital addiction is a real thing and it can be extremely hard to break.

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The challenge with phones has become so pervasive that to see someone in public, alone, without their face in their phone is almost an anomaly.  In the gym environment where I earn my living, it is rare to see someone training without their phone.  The challenge is that more and more, people tie up equipment between sets with their faces buried in their phones…texting, emailing, surfing, or whatever.  The bottom line is that it’s becoming a nuisance.    

And for all the warnings about not using your phone while driving, you still see people every day with one hand on the wheel and their phone in the other.  It’s time to stop the insanity.  Thankfully Darren made me aware of my personal challenge and with awareness, there comes the possibility of change.

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My particular struggle is not so much with social media or staying connected with the news.  My kryptonite is email & text messages and they’re the monsters I’m still working to tame.  The problem is that they’re the primary tools that I use to communicate with my clients.  And being a people person who loves to serve, I feel compelled to constantly check my phone for the sake of running my business.  The solution was simple enough and now I only check for messages at specific times of the day.  This keeps me in control and has reduced my stress level substantially.

My favorite strategy from Darren, especially concerning not using your phone while driving, is to leave it out of reach in the backseat…or if needed in your trunk.  Now, if the very thought of not having your phone “handy” in the car gives you the shakes, you may have a problem.  And it’s not just confined to your car.

Nomophobia—an abbreviation of “no-mobilephone-phobia”—is also called “cell phone addiction.” Symptoms include: Experiencing anxiety or panic over losing your phone. Obsessively checking for missed calls, emails, and texts.

Sound familiar?  In Darren’s “Insane Productivity” course, he provides a “Digital Addiction Assessment” to determine your true level of digital struggle.  Once you take the test, your roadmap for change will be clearly spelled out and with one step at a time, you can take back your life.

9 – No Multi-tasking Required 

So how many of you know someone who prides themself on being good at multitasking?
You do understand that there’s no such thing as multitasking.  Right?  It’s impossible to run two cognitive processes in your brain at the same time.  What you’re doing is actually switching and switching makes you dumber than if you were smoking dope.  When you’re smoking dope, your IQ drops by about five points.  When you’re switching between two different and yet like cognitive tasks, it drops by about ten.

One thing at a time is best.

Look, you can walk on a treadmill, chew gum, and watch a video on your phone, all at the same time and do great because you’re using different parts of your brain.  But when you’re driving with your phone, you’re either driving or you’re looking at your phone.  You can’t do both at the same time which is why driving while using your phone is so incredibly dangerous.  Add a cup of coffee to the mix and you’re a wreck waiting to happen.

Don’t believe me?  Try this.  Count from 1-10 as fast as you can.  Now name the letters of the alphabet from A-J as fast as you can.  No sweat, right?  Now try 1A, 2B, 3C…all the way to 10J and see how you do.  I bet you slowed down quite a bit.  And why?  Because you’re running two like cognitive tasks in switching back and forth between the numbers and letters which comes close to locking up your brain.

This one was hard for me to accept however I promise you will get far more done doing one thing at a time.  And remember, it’s not a matter of getting it all done anyway.  You will never get it all done.  Your inbox will never be empty and your to-do list will never end.  The key to high productivity is to get the right things done.  Focus on priority management, not time management.  You will never control time, but you can maximize it by focusing on your highest producing activities.

10 – Design Your Life…Then Your Business

Many people get this backward.  They choose a job without careful consideration for the life that career path will give them.  How do you define success?  How do you want to live your life when you’re not working?  Do you want a long commute or a short one?  Or none?  Do you want to travel?  Do you want to have your nights and weekends free?
These questions could go on and on and they should.  

Some people spend more time planning their vacations than they do planning for their life.  The key is to design the life you want to live in the most vivid detail and then select the career path that supports your dreams.  Or if you have an entrepreneurial spirit, build a business to support the life of your dreams.  This concept is not complicated and yet again, many people get it backward.  These are some of the same people who live for the weekend, and life is too short to live for only two days out of seven.      

Closing thoughts for my readers:

Outside of his Dad, Jim Rohn was Darren’s most significant mentor.  Personally, I discovered Mr. Rohn back in the ’90s and I’ve studied his teachings over the years as well.  Jim was simply brilliant and considered America’s Foremost Business Philosopher.  He touched the hearts of people literally around the world and he certainly touched mine. 

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To wrap up, I want to share the two dominant principles that are burned in my mind compliments of Jim:

1 – Leave the world better than you find it.
2 – If a book or song or movie or any experience touches your heart and life, you have a responsibility to share it with others.

It is in the spirit of Jim that I’ve shared Darren’s impact on my life.  

Best of luck in your journey.

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The Top 10 Lessons I’ve Learned From Darren Hardy – Part 1

This post is part one of a follow-up to the background story for how I met Darren Hardy.  The following is the first half of the top lessons I’ve learned over the past eight years from the man who has become one of my most influential mentors.  

From Darren’s book, “The Compound Effect”:

1 – Long-term Perspective & Consistency:

The compound effect is a powerful force in your life for positive or negative and many people fail to realize it.  Do you know what happens when you double a penny every day for 31 days?  You start with $.01 on day one, and then $.02 on day two, and then $.04, $.08, $.16, $.32, $.64, $1.28, $2.56 and so on.

After nine days and a total of $2.56, there’s not much to be excited about.  And yet, when you jump ahead to day thirty, you have $5,368,709.12 and on day thirty-one, you have $10,737,418.24.  Now here’s the catch.  The math never changes from day one to day thirty-one.  It’s just simple duplication.  The power is in the consistency.  Miss any one day and you don’t get anywhere near the same total.


This simple concept has taught me to have a long-term perspective while maintaining absolute consistency in the present moment.  Many are tripped up in two ways.  With negative habits, you don’t see the damage being done at the moment.  And yet, like in the penny example above, a negative habit compounded over time can destroy your health, relationships, career, and ultimately your life.  For this reason, you have to remain vigilant and aware of every area of your life.


Even when trying to build in new and positive habits, it can work the same way.  People don’t see the benefits in the short run because the positive effects are too small to be noticed.  Exercise, nutrition, and weight loss are great examples where people try again and again to change, only to give up too soon because of a lack of apparent results.  The key is to be patient in the short run and to trust the process until the power of the compound effect kicks in.  Then the positive results will be so compelling that there’s no way you will stop.

2 – Taking Responsibility

This is a big one, and while I have to give credit to Darren’s mentor, the great Jim Rohn, for first sharing this concept with me, it’s been Darren in recent years who has hammered this principal deep into my consciousness.  It’s really simple…accept 100% responsibility for every area of your life.  This means the good and the bad.  You are where you are in life because of the choices and decisions that you’ve made.  If you don’t like where you are, make different choices.

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Now you might say, that it’s not your fault that you’re dealing with a certain negative situation.  And that may be true and yet you always have a choice in how you respond to any situation.  When you place blame on outside circumstances, you give away your power to create change for the positive in your life.  So regardless of what happens to you, choose to respond in a positive way.  Be solution-oriented rather than problem-oriented and your life will be all the better for it.


3 – Associations

Your associations in life will make or break you so choose wisely.  It’s been said that you’re the combined average of the people you spend the most time with.  This principle is nothing new as you’ve heard it all your life…starting most likely with your mother.  The challenge is that it’s not easy.  

I encourage you to take a serious inventory of your life including faith, family & friends, finances, and fitness.  Now, look at the people you spend time with and consider how they’re doing in these areas.  Depending on what you find, you may have some hard choices to make.  Life is too short to allow negative people to drag you down.  And remember, there’s no such thing as treading water…you’re either growing for the positive or you’re slipping back for the negative.

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And for an added emphasis, it’s not just people that you have to be careful with.  News in any format, social media, television, movies, and music all carry a message and it’s either positive or negative.  You seriously have to guard your heart and mind daily because, in our over-tech-stimulated world, you are being bombarded day and night.  To paraphrase Darren, you have to be hyper-vigilant in feeding your mind with the positive and in shielding your mind from the negative because trust me…the negative will beat a path to your door.

4 – Momentum

Momentum is an awesome force.  When properly harnessed, it can propel you to the pinnacle of success, regardless of your pursuit.  According to Darren, a train traveling 55 mph on a railroad track can crash through a 5-foot thick steel-reinforced concrete wall without stopping. That same train, starting from a stationary position, won’t be able to go through an inch-thick block in front of the driving wheel.

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The trick then is to get momentum working for you so that like the train above, you become essentially unstoppable.  The biggest secret I’ve learned from Darren regarding momentum is that it takes time and patience to build.  A great example is Apple’s introduction of the iPod.  For the record, Apple was the eighth company to introduce an MP3 player…four years behind the original from South Korea’s SaeHan Information Systems. 

In 2000, Apple’s revenue growth was 30%.  In 2001, the year they launched the iPod, their revenue growth dropped to – 33%.  In 2002, it improved to only -2%.  In 2003, it improved to 18%, and in 2004, they hit 33%.  From there, Apple skyrocketed up to controlling over 70% of the MP3 player market.  And today, according to Mother Google, Apple as a brand is worth in excess of $100 billion dollars.

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This story has always been such an encouragement to me.  Remember, the iPod entered the MP3 race four years behind the leaders with a technically inferior product, and yet due to Steve Job’s dogged persistence and brilliant marketing mind, Apple caught momentum and rode the wave all the way to market dominance.  

5 – Thanks Giving Journal

Of all the lessons I’ve learned from Darren over the years, my favorite is on the power of gratitude.  His favorite holiday is Thanksgiving where he puts more emphasis on showing his love and affection for the special people in his life versus any other time of the year.   

One year, in particular, Darren gave his wife Georgia a very special gift…a Thanks Giving journal.  For the entire previous year, Darren journaled daily one positive thought regarding his wife.  It could be anything from the way she styled her hair to the meal she prepared for dinner or the way she cared for their dogs.

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This is a classic case of manifesting what you give focus and attention to, and Darren will say that one year of constantly looking for the good in his wife dramatically impacted their relationship for the positive.  The benefit he discovered was that by proactively focusing on the positive in Georgia, he found himself compelled to show up differently and ultimately to love her all the more.  Needless to say, she loved the journal expressing that it was the best gift he had ever given her.

Stay tuned for part 2…




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How I Met Darren Hardy

It’s often been said that thin threads of circumstance bring people into our lives and my introduction to Darren Hardy is a great example.  I was living in Broomfield, CO in the Spring of 2012, when a member at the gym where I was working gave me a CD called “Making the Shift.”  The author was Darren Hardy and the content he shared was on the mental shift needed to go from being an employee to being an entrepreneur. 

The info on the CD was excellent, however, the member was using it specifically to recruit for a business he was involved in.  While I had no interest in his business, I was so grateful for the connection to Darren because the lessons I’ve learned from him over the past eight years and counting have been life-changing.  Ultimately, my time in Colorado was short, and I moved back to Dallas in August of 2012.

The following is a brief timeline of the investments I’ve made in my education with resources from Darren…leading up to the once in a lifetime opportunity to meet him in person:

  • 2012 – Received the CD, “Making the Shift”

  • 2013 – Purchased Darren’s book, “The Compound Effect”

  • 2014 – Joined Darren’s DarrenDaily community
  • 2015 – Purchased Darren’s book, “The Entrepreneur Roller Coaster”

  • 2016 – Purchased the online program, Insane Productivity

In the Spring of 2016, I received an email from Tom Ziglar, son of the late great Zig Ziglar.  As a long-time follower of Zig, I was on their email list so this wasn’t a personal message.  It was, however, promoting an upcoming special event that at first glance was pretty intriguing.  Best selling author and speaker Brian Tracy was planning to hold a three-day “success” training weekend in May and it was practically going to be in my back yard.  I live in North Dallas and the event was to take place just minutes from my home.

I quickly scanned through the details especially looking for the price when I came across one particular point that really caught my attention.  Darren Hardy, who I had been following at that point for four years was named as one of the featured keynote speakers.  After searching frantically, I finally found the cost of the event.  The base package was $1,000 and there was also a VIP upgrade for an extra $497 which gave you access to the guest speakers during a private banquet-style lunch on Friday and Saturday.

Now in all fairness, I think a lot of Brian Tracy who is a brilliant man.  I purchased my first of several Brian Tracy books back in the ’90s, however, there’s no way I would have paid $1,497 to see him.  But to see Darren Hardy live, it was a done deal.  I immediately clicked on the link provided in the email to register and then the countdown began.

From that day on April 6 to the actual event May 13th-15th may have been one of the longest waits of my life…but well worth it.  The line up of speakers on Friday was solid and the opportunity to meet Brian Tracy during the VIP lunch was very special, however, my sights were still set on Saturday with Darren.

He was scheduled to speak mid-morning so I didn’t have to wait very long and yet the time seemed to drag on and on from speaker to speaker who for the most part I had never heard of.  And then finally, after a warm introduction from the host, and a short video featured on two massive screens, Darren emerged from behind the curtains and walked out on the stage.

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The whole experience was very surreal and he seemed way larger than life.  It was very much like a chance meeting with a celebrity that maybe you’ve seen hundreds of times on TV or in the movies.  Between listening to Darren on audio and watching his videos on YouTube, I had heard his voice hundreds of times.  So when he finally spoke, it was like listening to a friend because of the overwhelming familiarity.

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His topic was on productivity and the content was amazing.  Darren was as polished as I would have expected and clearly the standout speaker by far…for the entire weekend.  I took pages of notes and as he started wrapping up, my mind began racing with the anticipation of hopefully getting to meet him at the upcoming VIP lunch.  With his talk complete, he made a unique offer good for the weekend to enroll in his world-class online productivity training program called Insane Productivity.

Darren’s first car.

I had really not thought about investing further beyond the price to attend the event, however, Darren made a special and rather appealing offer for the event attendees.  With very little hesitation, I jumped on the opportunity to further my education from the man who had become a mentor through his training resources.

My first car. What are the odds?

There were a couple of other speakers who followed Darren and then it was off to the VIP lunch.  When I walked into the room, there were already quite a few people in a long line waiting to have their picture with Darren.  While I was hungry, food was not my priority and after leaving my journal at one of the place settings, I jumped in line.  After what seemed like forever, it was finally my turn.  

As I walked up with hand extended to introduce myself, Darren graciously shook my hand and we took our places for the photo.  It was short and sweet due to the large number of people but still pretty freakin’ cool too me.  I thanked Darren for being there and then made my way over to the buffet line.  

I was hoping that we might have the opportunity to do some Q&A with Darren before the afternoon session, and fortunately, that turned out to be the case.  Once he wrapped up the photos,  he positioned himself centrally in the room giving us the opportunity to ask questions.  I was one of the few lucky ones who was called on and it only added to an already amazing experience.  Given the volume of people, it really wasn’t practical to spend any one on one time with Darren although I still thought my VIP upgrade was well worth it and will treasure the memory forever.

To wrap up the event, I want to share a humorous experience that happened after lunch.  Darren sat in the crowd along with the rest of the attendees for the afternoon session.  He was only twenty or so feet away from me in clear view which made what happened next all the more humorous.

If you’ve gone through Insane Productivity, you know very definitely that Darren is not into high-fiving, messaging your neighbor, childhood regressions, or walking on burning coals.  He’s way more all-business, so just give him the goods so he can go back and start kicking butt with the lessons learned.  Well, much to his I’m guessing displeasure, the first big speaker after lunch was Darren’s polar opposite.

He had the audience on their feet, clapping their hands, doing backflips and hoorahs, and shouting phrases of affirmation.  It was quite the scene and I could tell Darren was not enjoying it.  I can only imagine what he was thinking.  Darren is one of the most accomplished speakers you will ever see but is actually quite introverted so this was not his kind of scene.  For what it’s worth, I’m with him and prefer a more professional environment. 

Closing thoughts for my readers:

This post is actually the first of two as I will soon be publishing the top lessons I’ve learned from Darren.  To wrap up, I want to leave you with the following which is the embodiment of everything Darren and his A-Team stand for.  For more information on the resources and programs they offer, go to


You Were Called Here For A Reason
To fulfill a special purpose.  A mission.

To contribute something unique.
Something that wouldn’t have existed without you.
It’s your Hero’s Journey.    







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My Secrets for Working Out at Home

On March 16, 2020, my company along with many others across our nation closed its doors.  When our boss gave the word, my mind immediately began racing with all the mostly negative ramifications.  Beyond the obvious health and financial implications for our country, I wondered how in the world I would be able to train at home. 

Since I’ve always trained at a gym, I had very little exercise equipment at home.  I had my trap bar and two 25 lbs kettlebells and that was about it.  That evening, I ordered a resistance band set from Amazon which thankfully arrived a couple of days later.  The next day I purchased a stability ball and ab wheel from Walmart, and a small number of free weights for my trap bar along with some extra resistance bands from Busy Body Fitness.

I would have purchased more weight however they were out.  As crazy as the rush on toilet tissue has been, the rush on fitness equipment has been almost equally crazy.  Even as of this morning, it’s still difficult to find fitness equipment locally or online.  My one other purchase was a trip to Home Depot for a metal pipe, chain, and a couple of spring links to build my homemade chin-up bar.

10′ chain – $10, 3′ galvanized pipe – $20, 2 spring links – $7, being able to do chins at home – priceless!

Now I will admit that while training at home is not the same as going to the gym, it’s still doable and it certainly beats the alternative of not doing anything.  I had never used resistance bands before as one of my primary tools and I’m still figuring out little tricks almost daily in better utilizing them.  Actually, in some ways, I like them more than some of the equipment I was using before, and will definitely be integrating them into my training in the future once I’m back in my gym.

With that short background, I want to shift to my biggest reason for this post.  As I’ve reached out to a number of my clients over the past few weeks, the most common feedback I’ve received is that they’re not motivated to workout at home.  This is even coming from a few clients who actually have some decent home equipment…certainly more than my little hodgepodge.

So here’s the same tuff love that I’ve given to my clients regarding their lack of motivation.  Motivation is a trap…based on your emotions.  If you live your life based only on how you feel, good luck.  You will live your life on a freakin’ roller coaster as your emotions go up, down, and all around.  Live your life based on your commitments to yourself, your family, your friends, your coworkers, and your fellow man…do the right thing because it’s the right thing to do. 

Question?  Do you always feel like going to work?  The answer is “no” for most.  So why do you go?  Because of your commitments to take care of yourself and your family.  Obviously, there’s more, but this really cuts to the core reasons for why you go.  Feeling like it generally has little to do with it.  

So, when it comes to your exercise, it doesn’t matter if you’re motivated or not.  Do it because it’s the right thing to do…for you.  Further, do it because you’re no good to your family or anyone else if you physically break down.  And this will be the end result of not taking care of your self.  World renown physician, Dr. Ken Cooper teaches that you can proactively invest time to build and fortify your health…or you will reactively be forced to take time to put yourself back together once your body breaks down.  

As a morning person, I’ve trained in the early mornings for most of my life.  Since I’ve been training at home the past few weeks, my schedule has not changed at all.  I get up at the same time and do my morning bible study along with coffee and a small protein shake before getting dressed to train.  The only difference is that instead of driving to the gym, I’m simply training in my apartment.

So, depending on your circumstances, figure out first of all when you’re going to train and then schedule the time.  Then when you actually do your workout, go through the same warm-up process as much as possible as when you were going to the gym.  It will be different on the one hand because you’re at home, however, I promise that your body will start to kick in once you take action.  If you usually wear head-phones, wear your head-phones…if appropriate.  The more you can simulate the feel of the gym, the better.  

Once you get your first workout in, I promise the second will be easier and so on.  To add a little gamification to the process, add your training to your calendar.  The calendar in your phone or computer will do however an old fashioned wall calendar is the best…because of the visual element.  Commit to your next week of training and then focus strictly on the first workout.  Once it’s done, mark it off your calendar and then focus on the next.  There is power in seeing your progress as evidenced by the check marks on your calendar.  One workout at a time, one week at a time, and you can do this.

Closing thoughts for my readers:

In my previous life as a manufacturer rep, I used to travel quite a bit and trained in a lot of different gyms.  I learned what I shared regarding your training at home from my time training on the road.  At first, it was difficult because of the different environments, the variations in equipment, and the fact that I was coming from my hotel instead of the comforts of my home.

Once I learned, however, to follow the same routine as my home town gym in terms of my warm-up, the differences seemed to fade away.  Further, after a few trips, I got used to the variation to the point that it wasn’t a big deal.  In fact, I had some great workouts over that three and half year period and value now all the more the lessons I learned.

As I’ve said to my clients many times, I will never ask them to do anything I’m not willing to do myself.  So, in that same spirit, the following are screen-shots from my Fitbit starting back on March the 17th right up to this morning.  My rotation is four days of weights followed by an off/cardio day.  As of this morning, I haven’t missed and you can do the same with whatever your personal schedule is.  Set your goal for how many days you’re going to train this next week and get it done.  Just turn your brain off and do the work.  You will be so glad you did.

Best of luck in your journey.




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